Kerrie’s Thoughts

It’s sad to say that most of the times you only hear bad things about relationships. All over social media there are the heartbroken girls and the guys that brag about cheating or vice versa. Between my group of friends and many others, I notice how stressed relationships can make people. Girls, within this article take notes. If your boyfriend does any of the following, it’s probably not a healthy relationship and you should get out.

1. Is your boyfriend obsessive and won’t let you hang out with your friends?

A key part of relationships is freedom. Who was there for you before your boyfriend? And who’s going to be there when you break up? (don’t get triggered by this, high school couples rarely stay together, get over it.) The answer is your friends. There is zero reason why you shouldn’t be able to balance hanging out with your friends and your boyfriend. If you end up ditching your friends for your boyfriend not only is that unhealthy for your relationship, but you’ll lose friends in the process and it’s not worth it.

2. Does your boyfriend make you go crazy?

News flash: you should be happy in a relationship. If you’re crying more than your laughing, then that’s not okay. If before the relationship you’re a sane person and pretty chill without getting mad over your boy breathing in front of girls, then that’s a good thing. But most of the time, when a girl gets deeper into the relationship, they get caught up and become insane. Another news flash, the world has too many insane people, be normal please.

3. Do you feel like you can’t be yourself around him?

One of the biggest problems in relationships is changing for your significant other or expecting them to change for you. First of all, if you change yourself for him, then that means that you don’t feel good enough for him. When in a relationship you should never question your worth. If he doesn’t like you for who you are, then he isn’t worth your time. It’s worth it to wait for someone who values you. Secondly, if you go into a relationship wanting to change something about him, let me tell you right now, it’s not going to work. First of all, if you feel the need to change someone then why are you dating him? Also, nine out of ten times the guy will change temporarily, but old habits are still always there.

4. Does your relationship cause conflicts with your family?

Whether you want to believe it or not, your family has your best interest at heart. You may not always agree with them, but they can see things you don’t. When you’re in the honeymoon stage of a relationship, you can become blinded. But that’s what family and friends are for; they look out for you. Your boyfriend shouldn’t pull you away from your family. A boyfriend that can hang out and be comfortable with your family is key. As the relationship becomes more serious, family becomes more involved around holidays and vacations. Therefore, it’s important that your boyfriend has a good relationship with your family instead of causing conflicts.

5. Do you and your boyfriend spend most of your time fighting?

Peep the news flash in number two again; you should be happy in a relationship!!! Ask the few healthy couples here at knoch. I can bet you they can very easily go months without fighting. If you’re in a relationship where you guys find something to fight about every day, or even once a week, that’s not okay. You should be laughing and having a good time, not crying and screaming.

Quotes:

Sophomore Sophia Beining: “Relationships suck, I’d advise everyone to wait till their older. Besides, my mascara is too expensive to waste on crying over boys”

Sophomore Emma West: “I think it’s good to be single in high school because its less drama and you can focus on things that actually matter and will benefit you, like school or sports.”

Junior Sarah Armahizer: “There’s good things and bad things about dating in high school. Good things are that you gain a best friend that’s there for you no matter what. You can also learn so much and gain different perspectives from a boyfriend. A bad thing would be that having a boyfriend can be very distracting.”

Kevin’s Thoughts

Most people in high school may see couples and think they want to be in a relationship. They get upset and just wish for someone to talk to. But really they aren’t as great as some couples make them seem. The sad fact is that there will always be fights no matter what and you most likely will not be with this person forever. I mean dating in high school isn’t bad; it’s nice when you have someone to talk to everyday and someone to make you happy. The thing is, you will probably break up eventually then you have to deal with seeing them in school and no one wants to see their ex every day. Being single is a lot less stressful and you don’t have to worry about making anyone happy but yourself. If you’re one of those people that’s sad about being single, don’t be. You have your whole life to find someone.

1. Does your girlfriend tell you to not be friends with certain people?

Some girls may try and make you stop being friends with one of your close friends because they don’t like him or her. If she doesn’t like your friends, it could cause conflict in the relationship. Your friends are the ones you go to when you need help. They’re the ones who are going to be there for you when you guys break up. Don’t stop being friends with someone to please your significant other because when you guys break up, who is going to be there for you? I understand you may like your girlfriend a lot or maybe you even love her, I’m sorry to say but you guys most likely aren’t going to be together forever. So if your girlfriend tries to do that, just think about who is going to be there for you in the end.

2. Does she make you go broke?

GIRLS ARE EXPENSIVE!!! They will make you go broke because they will be needy and want you to spend a lot of money on them and if you don’t, they might get mad. No guy wants his girlfriend to be mad, so he’s going to spend his money on his girlfriend to keep her happy. If she gets mad that you don’t spend money on her, then that’s kind of ridiculous but it may happen and that could lead to fights. Don’t get me wrong; spending money on your girlfriend is perfectly okay. But how much is too much? If she really doesn’t care about you spending money on her then that’s good because then you guys probably won’t fight over money. Be careful though because girls say they don’t care about a lot of things when they actually do. So if you don’t want to fight and you want some money to yourself, then stay single.

3. Are you stressed because she fights with you?

Girls are also very stressful. Like I said, they can fight with you about little stupid stuff. Fights can make you very stressed out cause you’re just trying to be happy, and you’re just trying to make her happy. Sometimes us guys do something stupid though, and we don’t think first and it makes her mad. No one likes when their girlfriend is mad. People in high school probably don’t need any more stress because for some people school already stresses them out enough so adding a girl that stresses you out even more isn’t going to help you out at all. I mean yes, there’s the possibility that she helps you out with your stress. I completely understand why you don’t want to lose that but if she causes you to stress more, then that isn’t good for you. I’m not saying break up with her but maybe talk to her and work things out if she means a lot to you. If she doesn’t, then break up with her, oh well.

4. Do you want to be able to talk to whoever you want?

If you are single you can talk to whoever you want. You can do whatever you want with whoever you want and not have to worry about what anyone is going to say. You won’t have to ever blow off your friends for your girlfriend so your friends aren’t going to get mad at you. Then if you want you could be with any girl, any time. I don’t recommend doing that, but if you like going from girl to girl then go for it. If you can talk to whoever you want, then your life will be stress free because you don’t have to worry about pleasing anyone but yourself. So do whatever you want to make yourself happy and talk to whoever. Try not to get too attached though, and don’t lead anyone on if you don’t have intentions of dating them.

5. Are you going to college and afraid you won’t see her enough?

If you’re a senior in high school, then it could be harder to be in a relationship because you’re going off to college soon so you will be meeting new people. I mean you should be fine if you’re in love with your girlfriend and she trusts you, but if there are some trust issues in your relationship, then you should sit down and have a talk with your girl. You need to sit her down and be like “listen, I’m not going to cheat on you or anything when I go off to college so you need to quit your worrying.” If she is a senior and you’re not, then you have to tell her if she cheats then that’s it, you’re done. Don’t go back to someone who cheats on you, it’s not good. Now if you guys are both seniors and both going to the same college then this probably doesn’t apply to you but if you’re a senior or dating a senior, you might want to think about this. Honestly, it just depends on what type of person you are. If you can go weeks or even months without seeing your girlfriend then take a chance, but if you don’t think you can, then I don’t know how much longer you’ll be dating.

Quotes:

Senior Josh Knochel: “Dating in high school is good if you are with the right person. Someone that lets you hang with your friends and still be with them. The only thing is there is so much drama because everyone is so immature.”

Senior Austin Hannes: “Don’t get tied down in high school, you have the rest of your life to be.”

Senior Colton Rearick: “It’s mostly a waste of money. You have less time to yourself, but it can build self-confidence for later in life.”

Even though everyone says that we’re dating, you can clearly see from our tips that both of us are happy being single. Be cool like us, you’re welcome. *drops mic*